Okay, I’ve been waiting for the Dair tag to calm down a bit before I ranted because, a couple days ago this place was hostile. But this is just a rant on several thoughts on Dan, Chuck, and Blair. Once again these are just my opinions.
Okay, so I’ve been wanting to address most Chair arguments this past season, because I don’t feel that their taking in the whole picture. Dan in no way is a perfect human being, just like anyone else in this show; Dan has made his own set of mistakes. But I dislike hearing that:
‘Dan was the one who pried Blair away from her friends the whole season,’
No he didn’t. Blair sought refuge with Dan and the loft in Brooklyn. It was her escape from the UES. And let’s make this clear. SHE LIVES WITH SERENA. THEY SHARE THE SAME BATHROOM. Their is no excuse as to why Blair and Serena’s friendship has become to strained, other than the fact that Blair decided to put her trust in Dan, and not Serena. If she had wanted to consult in Serena about her issues, then she would have. But Blair CHOOSE to confide in Dan.
‘Dan wanted to be her knight in shining armor, and he didn’t tell Serena, Chuck or Nate about her wanting to run away, so he could be the one to save her and help her,’
You’re right guys. HE DID. And why wouldn’t he? He’s in love with Blair and he want to show her that she can count on him. Would Chuck have done differently if he’d been in Dan shoes? I highly HIGHLY doubt it. And for the record, Blair could’ve dialed Chuck’s number, or Serena’s number, or Nate’s number, she could’ve dialed ALL OF THOSE, but she didn’t. She called DAN.
But that in no way excuses Blair’s lack of initiative in this episode. Dan told her that he had called Rufus from a pay phone. Once again, she could’ve DEMANDED that he call (or she call) Serena, Chuck and Nate immediately to help her but, SHE DIDN’T. She got in contact with DOROTA, and it didn’t cross her mind to call SERENA, or CHUCK, or NATE. So I don’t see why Dan gets all the heat for this, when Blair could’ve easily remedied the situation. You CANNOT put the blame solely on Dan for this.
‘Dair fans are delusional.’
Really? REALLY? Did we not watch the same Tv program? Was it just us Dair shippers making it all up, because as I recall Dair was canon up until the finale. The writers brought them TOGETHER. AND THEY WERE REAL. I understand if Chair shippers don’t approve of their union. But for those of us who indulged in their relationship, it was meaningful for us to see them get together. SO please stop TELLING us we’re DELUSIONAL, when the writer’s clearly shared our point of view and presented us with Dair. Just like we can’t fully comprehend why you ship Chair, us Dair shippers can’t expect you to fully understand our ship. So QUIT making up reasons why we ship what ship.
‘Dan fell in love with the Blair in his book,’
I can see how Serena’s argument can have tooth to it, because of the fact that dan had refrained from being with another woman for a year because of his feelings for Blair. But once Blair came back from Monaco, she has driven Dan up the wall with all her craziness, Dan openly let her enter the loft when she needed, he kept her pregnancy secret, the paternity exam secret, he brought her to Chuck, he bought her to church, and he helped her escape from her wedding. If he didn’t have the time to get the know the REAL LIFE Blair through all of that, (I’m not even counting their adventures at W, and their time as a couple) then I don’t know when. I think I’m gonna chuck that statement to being more of Serena’s jealous talk.
As a fan of Dan myself. I’m well aware that Dan has his flaws. One being that he never assumes responsibilities for his actions. I didn’t think it was fair of Dan at the finale to be upset with Blair to the point where he ignored her emails for choosing Chuck, when he in fact didn’t stay faithful. It didn’t matter how much he had to drink, or what Serena’s lies lead him to believe. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Both Dan and Blair wronged each other, and I wish the writer’s could’ve given us a proper breakup so us fans could have gotten some closure. However, I don’t see how this mishap makes him worse than Chuck, Dan in no way manipulated anyone to sleep with him, as apposed to Chuck who last we saw manipulated Alassandra to sleep with him so he can get even with Dan. Oh, and let us not forget how Chuck took to advantage of vulnerable Jenny right before he proposed to Blair. So no, I don’t equate Dan’s actions, as deplorable as they were, to Chuck’s current and past mishaps. Dan has a history of cheating on his girlfriends and I believe that a lot of his inability to trust women entirely is because of his mother. I think people forget that his mother basically walked out on his family, even when she came to live with them at the loft for a while, she still ended up leaving them aagin. He confessed to Blair back in season 1, how much he struggled coping with his mother’s abscense and whenever he tried to confront her about it, he lost his words. I think that’s the root of his trust issues. And I don’t want to hear that this doesn’t justify Dan’s case (to a certain extent), because if Chuck can have season upon season of mommy and daddy issues being the cause of all his problems, than Dan sure as hell should have the right to the same. So don’t even.
Nevertheless, I still feel that as amazing as all the Dair scenes we’ve been given this season, I feel like the writers ended up ruining the main thing that Dan and Blair had. They’re communication. Dan and Blair never addressed the issue of Chuck and Serena, two very big hurdles that they would’ve had to confront if they were ever going to have a chance at succeeding in their relationship. But they adverted the topic entirely; they wouldn’t even invite them to their events because they wanted to avoid ‘drama’. I can understand the root of their breakup being in Dan’s inability to trust Blair and Blair’s inability to talk about her feelings, but I wish the writer’s would’ve presented us that argument as appose to having them backstab one another.
